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shortandcute · Oct 29, 2012, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by dark_heart_x

I used to have a "friend" who was my "best friend" since 3rd grade. She was a horrible friend. She used to tell me I was fat (when I was very thin as a kid.) And that I was ugly. If I told her I liked a boy, she would then flirt with him and get him to like her over me. And she used to do dumb stuff like you're describing. And yes, I had bipolar (although didn't know it) and was depressed a lot, or whatever. But she had issues and was toxic for me.

So, I would say that it would be a good idea to make a list of any type of this toxic behavior between her and you before deciding to reconcile. Old friends are important, but only if they are not toxic.

This year, I had to give up a "friend" who was also very toxic for me. We only met about 3 1/2 years ago but we became good friends right away. She often treated me like a two year old, actually taLKing baby talk to me. When ever her (now ex) boyfriend would break up with her, she would beg me to spy on him. They did get married but he couldn't take it anymore after a month--so he filed for divorce. But while they were still married, she kept begging me to sleep with him. At that time, she also tried to get me to force myself on another man that already had a girlfriend. She lied to me about a lot of my friends to get me to stop being friends with them. That's just the tip of the iceberg, but it came to a head in January or February of this year. I needed to get someones phone number and I knew she had it so I called her and left a message for her to call me back. I specifically asked her to call my landline and not to text me because I was running low on minutes and available texts. Not even 5 minutes later, I got a really nasty text from her, accusing me of betraying her. I called her up to talk to about it and she hung up on me--then kept sending me really nasty messages, saying that I was victimizing her, what a terrible friend I was, how mean I was to her, blah blah blah. So I finally decided to end it. Two weeks later, I found out that she had been spreading rumors that I had a campaign going against her.