Simon

Don't let him blackmail you with emotional abuse, he is just trying to justify what he has done so that he can feel better about himself. By putting you down he is trying to raise himself. The note is a good idea... be the bigger person in this situation. I don't like your brother for what he has done to you, but you have to remember that now he also has some stuff to work out that he had probably locked away for long. He will also need a little time to adjust to the "new" you, the one who is finally confronting him. Maybe he's scared because he know what he did was wrong. Faith is right, look after yourself for now and don't let him get to you. It would also be good to make sure that he is making plans to leave, otherwise he may just be stalling and hoping the situation will dissolve and never move... keep the pressure on him. I wish you all the strenght that you need to get through this, I'll be thinking of you.

Tanya