No, I do not want to become bi-curious - not yet . My problem is as follows: I am white and I have very rigid racial preferences when it comes to sexual attraction. Very rigid. I do not react to men of Asian and Indian origin at all, sexually. I just do not. It is as if there were not sexual beings. In my whole long life I once, briefly, for a fleeting moment, have had some curiousity about a Chinese guy; same thing, only once and very fleeting, about an Indian male friend.

Such men constitute a very significant minority in Silicon Valley where I live and work, and it behooves me to stop being so rigid and widen my horizons. Eventually I would want to do online dating locally and being racially rigid is going to drastically reduce my range of options.

I do at times find Indian women or Chinese women or Korean women beautiful. But men - no way. They are sexless to me. Horrible, I know.

Should I try to fight it, to change it, or just resign to the fact? Are those things even in our control? Have you had a similar problem?