Hello everyone, I came here because I need advice with this situation.
I have a girlfriend and we have been together for three months, and it has been a very beautiful relationship. I have a love for stuffed animals. They are just so cute, cuddly and soft, and they are stuffed animals. Before going out I told her about that and she didnt have a problem with it.
Here it starts:
I have a sexual fetish with plush too, but I function well. I dont depend on them for sexual stimulation, and I can make love without them around. That doesnt mean I am not aroused by them. I told her about it recently about it, last thursday, and she started crying, and saying that she thought I was obsessed with her, and that I only fantasized about her. I told her that I do most of the times, but that I also want to act upon my fetish, just as I accept hers (she is into BDSM, and even though I dont like pain, I still want to do it for her).
After I told her that, she said that she was going to supress her fetish if it did hurt me, because she "doesnt need it, and that I dont need mine either". She said that I dont need to masturbate to stuffed animals because I have her, and I answered to her that just because you dont need something doesnt mean that you shouldnt do it, and she started saying that I was too dependant, and reliant on artificial things, and that it hurt her feelings because I was masturbating to something that isnt she.
She does this on the premise that supposedly I developed the fetish for plush because "I didnt have a sex partner before and that I was doing it to compensate, and that now that I am with her, there is no reason it should be there". First of all, I didnt develop it because loneliness, but she kept insisting on that, and that only desperate people do that.
I know I am tiring you guys out.. but it continues. I told her to see it as if it were dildos, and she said it wasnt the same, because "they are plushies".
I just dont know what to do... or who is wrong or right...
I want to make her feel more open about it, and I even told her that she was being very stubborn, and she just said: "pretty much.."
I love my girlfriend, and I am willing to supress my fetish if it really hurts her, but at least I want to try to open her mind to it.
I also have found support from friends, and family members, and I also want my girlfriend to support me...