<font color="purple"> I am going through something similair.... There are times when I do feel like I am being taken advantaged of, most definately.... More than anything right now, I feel alone... I have talked with him about this and he says he just doesnt know what to do.... I told him we NEED to make time for us and our marriage.... He agrees, but seems as though he deosnt know how to help, or even tries... I know he is bombarded with so much right now.... He is taking care of two households right now.... Has been for 15 yrs... See his dad was diagnosed with brain cancer 15 yrs ago and after fighting it for 14 yrs his dad died a yr ago this coming Sept 11th ( of all days)..... So I know between working long hours, sometimes OTR..... Spending time with our 4 kids, repairs and other household duties, taking care of his mom ( whom lives right next door), running her errands, and me... I know he has a full plate..... but I cant help that I feel neglected..... I do try my very best to understand, help him in anyway I can, especially with his mom, and give him attention that I know he yearns and deserves....I deserve it too, I wanted it so bad.... And I have to keep myself in check.... I am keeping communication open as much as possible which helps..... I have strayed before and I certainly DO NOT want to do that again, so communciation is very important for me.... BUT again there is this great distance between us, and I told him this last night...... We have lost our selves in all this.... The 28th will mark 20 yrs that we have been together... Since I was 15!!! (he was 22) .... We have tried having a date night, I enjoyed that very much.... Seems as though every time we plann it something happens and we end up not being aboe to follow through..... I know I need patience.... I am trying... He is very good to me..... I know he loves me deeply.... We just need to work together and harder....and I will keep talking with him about it.... and hopefully we will both get what we need...... </font>