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Originally Posted by shezbut
I wouldn't say that either of you is "wrong". You both have different ideals in what you do/don't like.
Your gf sounds as though she feels emotionally threatened by your fetish. You both say that you're willing to gives up your sexual fetishes for one another, but that really could lead to resentment etween the two of you quickly. Perhaps a better way around giving in to one another's discomfort would be to talk it out openly. Why does she feel so threatened? Would she be more comfortable if you preferred dirty movies or magazines?? Or, does she want to be your one and only sexual fetish?
On your side...when did this fetish begin? Any idea/s how it began? What if your gf were to dress up like a stuffed animal? Would that be the ultimate arousal for you, or completely separate?
Don't feel as though you have to answer all of these Q's to me. They're just things for you to think about & try if applicable. I hope that it helps you! Maybe both of you could limit your fetishes a bit ~ and that would keep both of you happy and satisfied. Take care!
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My fetish for plushies arised together with masturbation to imaginary friends when i was a 12 year old. i had this imaginary friend, and i remember watching it in a cartoon about animals. for some reason i thought the way it looked was sexy, and started imagining sexual fantasies with it, and then i moved to plushies because i can touch them. i would never do it with a real animal... i can get infected, go to jail, and i just dont find them attractive sexually at all.
I got my first girlfriend at 14 years of age, and the fetish just stayed there, mostly because i dont have any desire to get rid of it.
i feel like what people say about how only desperate lonely people would do that
is only a myth. i have already have kindof made love with my girlfriend (sexual make out) and the fetish is still there. like i said, i dont require it for arousal, i get aroused with my girlfriend by herself. but i also feel aroused with plushies.
this leads to your question about "what would my ultimate turm on would be" and that is, my girlfriend. i would feel aroused if she dressed up as a plushie though, but no more than she by herself. i think this will clarify more things... thanks