I feel the same way, too, ladies; however, it was my psychiatrist who told me that "you can either compete or not compete". Either way is okay. I began to wake up a little with that one, and it's true.

We live in a highly competitive society and have one of the highest drug-use nations in the world. If we choose not to compete (and as Roadie says only against ourselves) we may be doing ourselves a great big favor, in my view.

Life is much more pleasant not competing, and if people want you to do that just tell them that you are not a competitive person. Whatever they wish to do is fine with you and it's neither good nor bad; it's the equivalent of being an extrovert or an introvert--both are just fine; they are only two different types of personality.

When a psychiatrist says that, I believe it and I haven't had problems with competition since. Granted, I live very independently, but I like it.

Ladies, please relax and enjoy your personality just as it is. There isn't another someone exactly like you in the world, you know; you deserve to think well of yourself and I believe you do.