Hi, Tnlibrarian.

I think some men may believe (sincerely) that it is a manly thing to think it is essential to place feelings aside and to act only on thinking capacity. That's not the way a woman thinks, in my view.

I had a husband who was a thinker rather than a feeler and he strongly believed in managing feelings by using the intellect. It was never a personal attack on me; it was just his manner of being the leader in my life. It was just a natural thing for him to do.

I suspect that your husband might be acting with the same thought pattern.

Please don't assume that he's insensitive; he doesn't know what you are going through, and he's offering the advice that he would give to a close male friend or your mother's view.

I agree that you need to talk to your psychiatrist about your suicidal feelings. They will pass out of your life when you're adequately medicated and cared for with diet and rest.

Love yourself, too; that always helps.

Take care.