I do understand... I have been where you are at now... and i dropped the ball so to speak.My medical condtition did get so severe that i had no choice BUT to say no when it seemed as if I was the ONLY answer..I was so devestated and worried!

I babysat for a young single mom but once she was approved for assistance and was able to put her children in a babysitters for a state paid fee... based on her income...i was freed of that burden.Her children were happy and so was she... and they went after the dad for support too.

There are some situations we can do nothing about but please try to take care of yourself before you become chronically ill and have to stop helping , like what happened to me.

Maybe you should take time each day or evening just to do something nice and nuturing for yourself so that you are able to keep on giving of yourself to others.