BPD is going to be in the DSM-V. It is not going anywhere.

Here is the proposed revision: http://www.dsm5.org/ProposedRevision...on.aspx?rid=17

We all have abandonment fears, even those without BPD.

Fear of abandonment is an individual manifestation. For some people, the fear is profound, while in others it is not. I think what makes it problematic or "pathological" is the impact it has on relationships.