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Originally Posted by Garcia0909
 I'm so confused about if I should end my relationship of four months, or are our issues able to be worked out? I think I am falling in love with my current partner. We have so many things in common: we are very intimate, our hobbies, sense of humor, and we are so comfortable around one another. However are differences have been showing more lately than our similarities. For instance:
1. Friends and Family are always a priority over me.
2.Communication is very low. Instead of talking things out. I am normally met with silence or defensiveness/anger
3. It is very clear that I am immensly more mature than my mate.(we are the same age 25)
4. Very little sacrafices are made on my behalf
Recently My mate moved out of my apartment because his female friend while drunk curesd me out in public and put her hands on me. My mate is mad because I yelled back. He feels like I should've kept quiet!!!!! He took her side becuase he says she's like family and Family comes first eventhough he agrees she is in the wrong.
What do I do? Do we talk this out? Or do I need to end this immediately! |
It seems like a difficult person to be with in a relationship. You should tell him your feelings, dont stay quiet... Speak about how you feel, try to be literal. example: "It really makes me feel hurt when you put your friends and family first, I feel like I dont matter to you, like I am just there..." Dont let stuff like "you are being dramatic" stop you. He should be able to understand how you feel.
If he gets angry, tell him that he is being really unreasonable, that his behaviour will bring no good. I understand your situation.
My girlfriend used to yell at me. When something bad happened to her, something that happened with her parents, or friends, I would be helping her, and in her bad mood she would be yelling at me, and even push me away when I wanted to hug her. At first I didnt do anything, but I realized that if I dont, she will step over me, so I started being more assertive, and so far she has stopped that immature behaviour.
If nothing seems to change, I'd suggest to rethink what you really want with a partner...
I am sorry if my answer isnt helpful, but I think it is what should be done