<font color="purple">I cannot answer that Rhap... for my view/ thoughts on sex is not the norm.... I undertsand that most find it emotionally connected, I do not..... I have a very distorted view.... it is just an activity.... to adhere any emotion to it sickens me and I feel dirty.... I place it in a pleasurable (sometimes even selfish) catergory , a recreational activity... For me intimacy & love making has nothing to do with sex at all.... for me love making is an emotional connection along with actions of care.... a call just to say I love you and how is your day..... A home cooked meal.... the dishes washed without being asked.... a simple thank you honey for folding my clothes... a rememberance of special dates..... a hug, a kiss, holding of hands, a massage....

In that aspect, I can understand that yes it is very hard to return any intimacy when I have felt neglected.... I feel used, uncherished and uncared for.... I want to be told or showed that my feelings are valid, a thoughful reassurtion of our commitment.... and then I will be willing to give him what he needs as well....

I am sorry that my wording is some what jumbled, I am not in a good place right now and my thoughts are not easily expressable.... </font>