Thanks for your input and your kindness.

I do have a therapist that I see weekly and it is good to talk to her but I find that it's just not enough. However it is good, I wouldn't say it's giving me an idea of why I'm allowing myself to obsess about my ex but it is giving me a good sense of how I can put a positive spin on my negative thoughts.

I like the way you put it though, "...who continues to reject you and toys with your feelings". There is truth in that and it's nice to have someone affirm the way that I feel, even if it is someone who's only got a handle on the surface of the situation.

It's tough to think what I'd say to my best friend is he were going through the same thing. I guess I would tell them to do exactly what I'm doing, filling my life with other things and praying for the best in the end. But that could be just cause I'm in this situation right now and it's hard to get out of it. I can see why someone would say 'just move on' although most of my friends who I talk to about it tell me not to give up just yet.

Anyway, thank you again for your caring response. I'm feeling the love in this community already

- A