dissociation problems affects many social skills

example

some days when my wife and I are out with friends I will be feeling numb and spacey, not able to take part in the conversation because I am feeling so disconnected from the conversation...

a way to understand this is think about a time when you are with someone and instead of feeling included in the conversation or activity you have felt like a third wheel, everyone else is taking part in the activity but you feel like the outsider, like you dont belong. maybe your friends are talking sports and you dont know anything about that sport so you feel a bit odd listening to this conversation going on around you as if you were not even there.

that is a similar feeling that dissociatives have when their dissociation symptoms are activated while in social situations. when Im having dissociative symptoms when I am in social situations I tend to feel numb and like the odd one out to an extremem where it affects my ability to socialize.

Clumsyness gosh I cant tell you how many times I have been mentally spaced out, and feeling numb to the point where I dont notice whats around me and end up tripping over something or walking smack into a wall or furniture, just yesterday I was dissociated and didnt notice this street sign and walked smack into it, I was so dissociated/disconnected from what was around me that I didnt notice a tree limb had been snapped so that part of it was laying on the side walk and I tripped over it.

tonight I was dissociated/ disconnected that I knocked over the water pticher, dropped a plate...

some people who have aspergers have the same type of clumsiness where they dont always pick up their feet to step over things in their path, knock things over, drop things, walk into wallls because they are distracted by other things that they see....many aspergers repetative motions includes things where objects get knocked over accidentally, or their motions propell them in such a way that they cant always keep their balance while walking when agitated... there are lots of things that comes with aspergers that are categorized as being clumsy behaviors, mannerisms, actions.

my wife when under stress or when shes really mad will get up to walk out of the room and end up walking into a wall or tripping over her own feet, or drop things she is trying to carry...

heres some websites to help you understand aspergers..

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome
http://www.aspergers.com/aspcrit.html
http://www.webmd.com/brain/autism/me...rgers-syndrome

there is also an aspergers forum board here at psych central where members that have this might help you to understand aspergers better. heres where you will find it

http://forums.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=81