The thing your husband needs to understand is that everyone experiences bipolar differently. I'm sure he's going to run into a lot of forum people who are angry because they were with a person who had bipolar who was cheating on them, abusing them, etc. And these people may be very vocal and angry and hurt, needing healing themselves, and also to believe all with bipolar are exactly the same way.

This is not true.

I have rage now, but for many, many, many years I didn't. My rage now I think is more of a response to other issues, and not the bipolar itself. Before this year, I never used to explode at my husband. But in the past six months I do. I think I hit a breaking point. I don't throw or break things, more just yelling at him constantly and not able to stop. I have always had rage toward myself, though, and have SI issues. I also don't have the 'disappear for days' reaction, either.

Other things I don't have as symptoms:
My risk taking doesn't involve promiscuity, gambling, or spending excess money. Instead, my risk taking is suddenly dropping out of school, quitting jobs, giving up on things I enjoy (for example I used to be theater, and I'd try out for a play, get a role, and then decline...)

I don't self-medicate with drugs or alcohol. In fact I was only drunk for the very first time this year.