Skylin - what helped me were some really terrific therapists along a 20 plus road of on again off again therapy. As for what a mom can do- well I hate to say this but sometimes its actually harder to talk to family members about sexual abuse then it is a therapist. There was no way I would consider for a LONG time of talking to my mother about this especially when the abuse in part was happening from family members. On the one side I wanted it to stop and on the other side I didn't want to hurt my mom by saying this kind of stuff to her because it would have hurt her so much and it did when it was finally out in the open. even now because of who one of my abusers were my mother and I do't talk about this issue. with this topic its too easy for fighting to break out and disagreements and words that shouldn't be said in pain and anger get said on both my end and my mothers. So we have basically foound other areas of common interests and ground. The topic is by no means forbidden among my mother and I its just that we both would rather spend our time together doing the things we both enjoy for, with and about each other. The best thing you could do for your son islet him set the pace. right now he's at a stand still. Guess what "stand stills" are ok. in fact many therapists tempr the hard work with lots of breaks for standing still in between so the person has a chance to process what has been going on. Standing still is part of the healing journey just as much as the hard work part of the journey is healing.

Hang in there