oh my Simon, you have done very well standing up for what you need right now to get on with your healing. If your bro reallly has turned a new leaf, he will act the man and pack out.

when one person in a family changes, all must shift to accomodate the "new form". it is awkward and uncomfortable and challenging for everybody. BUT, it is worth the struggle to have that weight off ones shoulders...... IMHO

keep on defining your boundaries and expecting/demanding they be respected. even if you shake. have you read about january and the shakes she had when she stood up for herself the other day? you are not alone, your Mom is looking down proud of you.