My husband recently moved out. Long story short, he hadn't been honest with me about a past relationship with a co worker and had hidden multiple financial issues from me. I had no idea until recently that I had anxiety disorder. I'm learning about my triggers and how that affects the dynamic of my relationships.

I feel awful about how I became increasingly controlling and accusatory of my husband. We began talking about things and came to the conclusion we would both be happiest if we created a living apart but being together type of situation. We're committed to each other but need time apart for a variety of reasons. This is the third marriage for both os us and we're in our forties. Currently, he's staying with his family until his apartment is available in a couple of months.

He just told his family today about our new arrangement. They are not supportive. They believe my issues will surface again.

I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle. Rationally, I do believe we can be really successful with this arrangement, but his family being against his wishes to try to make things work with me makes me wonder if they won't meddle and screw things up. He's very close with them I'm determined to back off when the subject of them comes up. I know I can't control their opinion.

Sigh. Any advice? Feeling insecure.