That's a difficult situation you're in and I feel for you, but at the same time, I kind of understand her point of view. You were supposedly very close to her, and at the same time were holding her at arm's length saying you weren't sure. That kind of says the opposite of how much you said you were in love with her. You took a break. Not only did you take a break from her, the fact that you were not wanting to "rush" the divorce told her you were getting cold feet which could speak to whether you are committed to her or not.

I understand your thinking completely, I'm just trying to speak to what went on with her. She may have moved on thinking that your being unsure was too much for her to deal with over the long haul, and on top of that it was long distance which doesn't make for an easy relationship. The thing is, if you were questioning at any point, the divorce, regardless of the reasons behind your doubt, it was probably not a good idea to get involved yet. I am separated and in no possible way will I ever get back with my ex (wife) We are to divorce in about 4.5 months. But even though I know I've moved on in my heart, even though I yearn to have another in my life, I am hesitant because I know how complicated it can be that my ex is still not officially gone.

Lastly is that if she was that in love with you how did she move on so quickly? I would question that just as you did. I hate to say it, but if I were you I wouldn't expect her to change her mind. I'd wait for the divorce to be final and find someone new at that point.

hope this helps.