what the inlaws think is irrelevant, they are not living your or your husbands life, only you two are and therefore whatever feels right to you two is all that counts. if they don't like it they have two choices either accept it and continue being part of your lives or not accept it and leave you both well alone. you do not have to listen to any derogetory comments they make, it is easy to shut them up by saying you are not living our lives so do not understand our reasoning until you have lived our life shut the hxxl up!