riotgrrrl, thank you for your reply, and no, you did not offend. He has kind of hinted that he would be willing to try, I agreed to go to some counseling with him at my church, so I am definitely getting (and sending!) mixed signals, I am sure. That is a good thought about getting confused with our lives being entwined because of the kids. I definitely know I would not have kept contact with him had we not had the children.

I appreciate both your and Platinum's responses, and have quite a bit to think about! Thank you for the perspectives!