I have been dating a man on and off for over 6 years. He is divorced with two girls in college. I am divorced with one girl in college and son in elementary school. To make a long story short, he informed me that he caught his ex wife in the act with another man. I feel like this has caused him to undergo tremendous mental health issues, which we have never discussed. In the beginning, we both did say we would never marry again. But, I think he must have said this first, and I stated the same, knowing that I did in fact want to remarry someday. He did finally admit he was in love with me, but it took a long while before I told him the same, even though I maybe I was a lot earlier, but afraid to tell him. Anyway, I guess I started wanting him to spend more time with me than he had to offer. Works a lot, full time with many different side jobs on weekends. He was very affectionate and sent me red roses every year for both my birthday and Valentine's Day. But, when he didn't spend time, missing dinners I cooked mostly, I'd get upset and break it off, quite often. But, I guess he got tired of that. He broke it off with me and I was devasted. Couldn't eat, sleep or function to great on job for months and even lost 30 lbs in less tna 3 weeks. But, he did finally come back to me. Only, I am not sure if things are going to last. He keeps pushing me away during this last year been together. One time he broke it off this time again and was apart a little more than a month. Said he was blocking my number forever and he was moving on. I did in fact go out with another man, one date to movie and that's it. Wasn't even really attracted to him and he moving to fast saying I was what he prayed for and would make me his wife. Really? after a couple weeks? Ran for the hills out of that..LOL. Anyway, boyfriend contacted me again and told him I wasn't sure about seeing him and later sent him letter to tell him about other guy dated once. I think this is what has caused him to go over the deep end. Everytime after I see him, I woulld wait 3 days before I contact him hoping he contact me. When I did, he would tell me move on, he's done and for me to chase other men and he knows I am looking for more. So this last time he responded this way after I text him to tell him I was sick and felt like flu. He comes back with he's done with me. Was he just coming back for sex with me? Does he have some type of insecurity issues or control issues? I even think maybe he was taking some medications for mental health issues after his divorce and perhaps reason why things were great for us in beginning. Then, he may have stopped taking them and his personality changes and especially now after he thinks I have maybe slept around like his ex-wife. I love him deeply and I feel like he stilll loves me even though he may have been coming back for just sex. But, he has hurt me to with his behaviors. What are your thoughts? I feel he will come back again and don't know how to respond. I would first want to know if he has ever been on any medications because of trauma caused by ex-wife. Help!

Stay in or move on?