I think I already know the answer, but I think my wife has bipolar or other mental condition. For years I have been ignoring the warning signs that something is wrong and rationalized that it was just stress or pms. The latest manic episode has reached a breaking point.

In the past she has been treated for depression but said the doctors were a waste of money and the meds made her gain weight and more depressed. She never was overweight but has low self esteem and always puts herself down.

Over the years she has alienated most of her friends and family. She always has a reason to not want to talk to them to the point of not even attending her best friends wedding.

On a few occasions she has acted violently out of control, breaking things around the house over what I would consider an inconsequential argument. This is rare though.

Lately she has been talking about wanting to leave me and says that I'm the cause of her depression. The next day she will then be fine and say that she just felt angry and wanted attention. This cycle has repeated about once a month for several months now.

I'm very happy with my life. Have a good job, nice house and no other real worries. I do realize I have been in denial that there is a problem.

The littlest things will set off her anger and yelling. Up until recently I would just ignore it and get away from her until she calmed down. We are taking little things like leaving a pair of socks on the bathroom floor or not complimenting her after getting ready to go out to dinner.

She also says that some nights she if unable to sleep at all. If she has to do anything stressful the next day she will lie in bed all night thinking about it. She works 20 hours a week and truely dreads it. She has admitted to crying on multiple occasions at work.

Sometimes things are great for months at a time and I forget how bad it can be. I have recently confronted her about seeing another doctor, but she is being resistant. What should I do? We have two kids, 3 and 5 and she is a great mother to them.