)))))))skylin((((((, ow ow ow, hard hard hard. I'm in agreement that it would be a good idea for you to do therapy on yourself around this issue. I heard you feeling pretty guilt ridden in your post. It's hard to think clearly in that frame of mind.

Suffering now won't prove your love for him, or reveal how sorry you are for what happened to him in the past.

We can't "fix" anybody but ourselves, ya know?

hard hard hard situation. I wish you strength and insight. I hope something clicks to relieve his pain.... unfortunately we can't predict what or when or where on that one.....