I married a man who is a great father to our children and very supportive of me. We however: have nothing in common other than our children. He accepts that we are two different people doing our own thing.

I feel no spark for him nor have I ever felt a big spark - more like a friendship.
I married him because I was looking for someone stable not necessarily someone I had a spark with. I feel like I settled. When I met my husband I was 'surviving' and had really low self esteem (still working on esteem and I'm in therapy).

I feel so awful for saying all of this. I feel like a horrible person that has ruined two lives. I feel like if I go for a separation (something I can't do at the moment) I'm going to ruin two more lives besides my husbands because we have two children.

I feel sick to my stomach