I don't really believe in forgiveness. I agree that it means different things to different people. I don't agree with the phrase "forgive but never forget". If I'm thinking about it, I haven't forgiven you. I think of it more the other way around. I can't let thoughts of abuse haunt me every single day, but I'm never going to say what happened was okay, or that it didn't hurt me or change me forever, or that I'd ever feel comfortable with the people that hurt me being around me, or anyone important to me. I just push it out of my mind, but I'm not going to accept or forgive it.