I'm not sure I have a full grip on what those thoughts would include, but if they are what I think, I deal with them by realizing they might be correct. I'm not a fan of "benign interpretation". If someone is angry with me, an automatic negative thought could be that I actually did something to really upset them. It might not just be them having a bad day. If I'm afraid someone will get mad at me for something (which I am a lot), I realize they might actually be mad for real.

Backwards? Maybe. But just assuming everyone is fine with me, leaves me very, very vulnerable. Also, realizing they might be mad at me, makes me realize that well maybe they won't. I will just wait and see what happens.

Everyone will not love me. Everyone will not treat me fair. But I can probably deal with that.