and he made you pay for the session? that would be my first objection. if insurance covered it, then the fact that this is a fairly new r/s would bother me. OTOH, it does mean you are a formidable resource. after 6 years with my T, I feel on pretty equal footing, but I can still tell he manages it. Your T must be in pretty dire straits to expose that side of himself to you? Or did he play it professionally or what? How did you act and feel during the transaction? Maybe that's the point, the mutuality?