I wonder if its more that you experienced your T as being vuneable and that felt too unsettling? I know once when my T's doorbell broke & I made light of it and she sort of said she would need help in fitting a new one and I mentioned that you can get non wired (she's an old hse) now and she seem relieved to be told that. I felt like the balance in our relationship had tipped & I kinda of liked it for a second but further thinking I decided I never wanted the imbalance to happen again. Just a little thing but it had enormous conitations for me.