Mother kicked me out at 19. Dad was really never there, but he was the only one that showed me some kind of affection. Now I've been trying to heal, and see, what was always there. Dad was everything to me, there wasn't anything I wouldn't do for him, even take care of his wife, while he lived his life with another woman. Of coarse at that time I didn't want to accept my Dad was a cheater. While I took care of mother after her 1st stroke, cuz Dad ask me for help. She not only treated me like crap but also my daughter. I asked dad back then, not to ask me to take of her again, almost 10yrs later he did, and I did, but this time I had a 1yr old. I was falling apart. I put mother in a nursing home, my priorities are my girls. Come to find out dad knew how she mistreated, yet he asked for a 2nd time to watch her, so he can live his life. Then to see him have a relationship with his mistress's grandkids. He never had time to come to my kids birthday party, but took hers to Disneyland. Then he tells me how he encouraged her son to finish high school, because a diploma is important. I graduated high school in 1987, I didn't tell him til 2012. He was never around for me, why is he there for them? I wonder when he says, my kids, am I included?