Sorry if this is long. Just need to get this out.

My younger brother is getting married next year. There are 5 kids in our family, and his will be the first marriage. His fiance wants me to be a bridesmaid, and I am truly very happy for them both. The problem is that I am single, and have only had 1 relationship that ended a long time ago. I'm not in touch with him anymore.

My stepmom seems to love to point out that I'm still single, and embarasses me in front of the entire family. For example, on my birthday she said "In 2 more years (I'll be 30 then) you'll be an old maid." She said this in front of the whole family. When she actually didn't get married until she was 45 to my dad. (Her first marriage)

Now she has convinced my female relatives on my dad's side (aunts, grandma, etc) that I am either gay or too lazy to "find a man." Nothing wrong with being gay, but I am not interested in women. Every person on my dad's side has had a child by the time they were 25. Times are different now, and women have more choices. I try not to let it bother me, but every time I go to my dad's I cringe thinking that she will say something else. My dad doesn't say anything because he is passive. Everytime I say something back to my stepmom, she says something else that is hurtful. I am seeing a T, but we've barely scratched the surface on this particular topic.

I'm not expecting suggestions. I know that I need to love myself first, etc. I'm working on it, trust me. I shouldn't care about what she thinks, but I do. And I have told her to stop but she won't. I haven't done anything to her. I've known her for 20 years now and she's always been like this. I don't even know the point of this post. Just venting I guess. I am just very frustrated. She always says hurtful things, not just about this. And I have tried to stay away from her, but I ended up avoiding going to my dad's house altogether, and I don't want her negative attitude to affect the relationships I have with the rest of my family. We're all pretty close, except for her. She says horrible things to everyone, including her own children.

I don't have any male friends that I can ask to go with me. Maybe I should just suck it up and go solo. Sorry this post is so long. I feel like I shouldn't complain.