After digging alot.. i found out that she had a violent episode with her dad when she was much younger (before we met). the story i got is that she took a knife to hurt herself then her dad interviened and he got stabbed in the hand.
when she was 17, she lived with a boyfriend which also became violent at times.
during the time we have been together, nothing violent like this happened until about a year and a half to 2 years ago.
She self diagnosis herself.. thinks that its me thats making her this way.
never her fault.