I forgave the man who raped me. HOW? I saw him years later married to a woman w/ a severly autistic child. He took in that child plus her two other children. He was able to love her and love those little kids and he was so good w/ that little boy who was autistic. So I choose to see the good. He was obviously a good father. He was at a PTA meeting so he cared about all his kids. Well her kids. What happened was a long time ago. I was 15 he was 19 or 20. He was not capable of love when things happened back then. But now 15 years later he is able to feel and show true love and that made all the difference in the world. It shook me to the core to see him at these monthly meetings. I never confrounted him on the issues. He never approached me or showed any emotion towards me from across the room. Finially I approached him and asked how was his mom and dad? How was his brother? It was weird. I am known by others to find the good in everything and to be a giver of second chances. I'm one of those happy perky people setting in a traffic jam that make you just wanna barf because they don't seem bothered by things. Life is to short to hold on to the negative. So forgive. Find the good it makes it so much easier.