My ex-boyfriend sounds a lot like yours; in fact, we had a night just like the one you described. We met in college, and had an on-again off-again relationship since he cheated on me a lot. I let him get away with it because I didn't think anyone else would ever want to date me, but he finally dumped me for good after a year. We tried to stay friends because I always thought we could work it out again, but it ended up hurting me even more. He loved to play emotional games with me (even though he knew I still liked him), by calling me all the time to hang out, flirting with me, and then just when it seemed he wanted to get back together, telling me he was going to ask out one of my friends. When I finally got the courage to tell him not to call me or hang out with me anymore if all he was going to do was talk about dating my friends, he ended up calling me later that night saying he was going to kill himself because of me. Since I am no stranger to thoughts like that, I was concerned and went to check on him. He cried, pretended he still cared about me, and then kissed me and tried to have sex with me. I didn't have the strength that you did, I let him do it because I was worried about him and I thought it would fix things. The next morning, nothing changed. He went back to dating my friend, and my self esteem was completely gone. I felt violated. I then much more firmly told him NOT to call, that I didn't want to see him, I blocked his number and I deleted his facebook, etc. I even dropped the class we were taking together. He tried a couple times to get in touch, but I just never responded. It took a while, but isolating myself from him really did help. Men like that are narcissistic and have no shame, they love to see what they can get away with and will never stop unless you make them. They want CONTROL - I took it away when I cut him out of my life, and sounds like you've started to take it away too. You already showed more backbone than I when you wouldn't sleep with him when he was drunk; so I know that you can do this =) I know how hard it is at first; even now (when I feel really low) I get trapped in my own head thinking about what might have been if I hadn't cut him out. But, while the thoughts may never be completely washed out, if you don't keep reopening the wound by doing things for him or seeing him, the pain can be dulled. Hang in there, llafitte93, we're all here for you. -sciencegirl