Sorry in advance if this is long. For those who don't know me, I have 2 daughters almost 15 and 11 (birthdays in Dec and Jan). More of my history's in my 'about me' on my profile. Husband is Lebanese (muslim) background - very strict etc. I've done 99% of the parenting and he's the financial support. I've more than prepared my girls for the outside world and life - its an ongoing process.

We own a spa, so I was getting my hair colored -oldest stayed home for studying an early exam for a civics course that is ending early. He proceeds to calmly tell me this story - "I have a customer who has a son from another school, who knows this boy at D's school." He said this boy said "I'm playing so nice with her, because I can't wait to get in her pants." He wouldn't say who this customer is or give a name. I then said "well good luck to him because I've warned her about this and she doesn't want to risk hurting herself by getting sexually involved too early." He said "she should know this is a small world" - meaning he could find out if wrong things are being done(seems like a threat). He said "well why does she even need to talk at all with boys?" I said it doesn't matter how many or how much she talks as long as she doesn't cross her boundaries. A boy can't get anywhere if she doesn't let it happen. I also don't think socially isolating is the way to go.

Sadly everything my husband has done, has somewhat tarnished my oldests ability to trust a boy. I've worked hard at preparing and teaching my girls about life and the risks of getting too deep with Bf's and GF's. Its a fine line of preparing rather than scaring or scarring them for future relationships. H tends to resort to being too strict or scaring tactics to teach children. I prefer the gentler approach of being honest and educating. Once when they were small, he told them snakes would grow in their stomach if they bite their nails.

He's so out of the actual parenting, that he hardly knows how lucky he is with having great kids and the great job I've done. My oldest is smart with 90's so far in all her subjects, she can sing like a professional and most of all she has a great heart but is street/life smart. She started a Healthy Minds club to promote mental health awareness, anti-bullying and education about abusive relationships. She's also trained in Karate.

I grew up too shy to talk to boys, where I ended up very naive and unprepared. My mother didn't prepare me for the bad world or relationships. If there's one thing I'm proud of is, I'm a great mother and love both my girls with my heart and soul. He has nothing to worry about. She wrote him an email explaining how she feels taken for granted. Sure he knows she's smart and talented but doesn't know how great her morals and goals in life are. He's full of fear and paranoid which is blinding him from seeing how great his kids are.