unfortunately, there's knowing, and there's feeling. My mom knew and acted like the original liberated woman, but when it came to me, she still saw me as a little Italian girl. The older (ie marriageable) your daughters get, the more they will matter to your husband. I didn't matter to my parents except as marriage material. Unfortunately, I didn't realize it. Fortunately, they weren't willing to risk anything if I stepped out of line. I hope you can get thru to your husband that the girls are okay as they are, and where they are. The "good news" is, he hardly has anyplace to take them back to. He may be upset about this and need more sympathy, and the girls should recognize more where they come from?