Bless your heart. I really know what you're going thru, since I felt like that with my first husband, but my parents TOTALLY pushed & pushed me to marry him. I tried breaking up with him, but they were so ANGRY -- I was very young too, only 18. I got married 4 days out of high school. So I basically was "forced" into marrying my first husband. I stayed with him for 26 years, and felt totally trapped. He was angry and abusive.

Why did you marry him -- just to get married? Because everyone else was married? It doesn't really matter -- I was just curious.

Honey, you said in your 'title' you were thinking of separating. Why separate? Why not just divorce since you don't love him. Why stretch it out any longer than you have to? Get it over with and be done with it. I know you don't want to hurt him, but even a separation will hurt him, so just divorce so he can move on. If you have a lot of bills, the divorce decree will take care of that. Depending on where you live, it's usually 50/50.

So just file for divorce sweetie and get it over with. You don't love him so you may as well get out of the marriage rather than be miserable the rest of your life. Take it from one who knows. I know he'll be hurt, but he WILL get over it, and it might force him to grow up and learn to stand on his own two feet rather than rely on someone else to do everything for him. Best of luck my friend, and please take care! Hugs, Lee