For me, wallowing in self pity means feeling so sorry for myself that I cannot (and sometimes choose not to) see past myself and my misery. SOmetimes, I am so ill that I cannot help to feel sorry for myself but if I am being honest, I have to admit there are many times that I could fight it more than I choose. I get comfortable feeling sorry for myself and blaming everyone and eberything else for my troubles. It is true that I am ill, but I have to do all the work I can to get better andd stay better.

Hope this helps. Good luck!