sis, thanks for sharing this with us. I am sorry your T is not taking this more seriously. not being able to come up with "one thing", your young age, the length of time with your abuser, the nightmares, and now looking for someone exactly like yourself, who presumably won't hurt you?, are all bad indicators. slap your t for me, will ya? I mean, I don't know how else to wake her up to what's happening. and now of course I have to think about what that means to me, but oh well!