I am slowly learning to agree with this. For me I am also in a place of trying to forgive the person that changed my life negatively. I have found that the hate is trapping me, keeping me caged. Forgiving him does not condone what he did to me, nor does it forget, but I am hoping it will help me heal. I try to remember the forgiveness is not about HIM but about me. And forgiveness, in my opinion, does not mean reconciliation; I don't have to forge a relationship with him or anything in anyway or let him in my life. (never knew the guy anyway, lol)

I hope you can find a way to forgive, too...when/if you choose to!