I said, "Well, thank God she was out of it when you did that so she didn't hear what you were saying." She said, "I realized that. I threw my 26-year-old daughter under the bus because I felt shame. I felt that the doctor was questioning my parenting skills. Why would I care what he thinks?" I said, "T, do you realize you were defending your parenting skills to me also? You were pretty adamant that you had told her and warned her when you told me about *daughter's* surgery. Why would you care about what I think?"