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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
You experienced what happened as trauma. Whether or not your T views it this way doesn't really matter. She may have her own reasons why she doesn't, or just has a theoretical orientation that favors your current life functioning. It sounds like your beliefs and behaviors have recovered from this experience; but that doesn't necessarily take away the power of the memory of it.
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Yes, I think that's exactly it. My T sees that I'm successful at work, I've had healthy romantic relationships since then, I have a great circle of friends, I get along with my family, I've never acted out, I've never been self-destructive, I don't have a mental health diagnosis, etc... and, for these reasons, she thinks my experience of trauma wasn't a big deal. She dismisses my nightmares by saying nothing other than "they'll go away in time" and she says my visceral feelings of being violated are "understandable." If I acted out, she'd take me more seriously. So I think it's unfortunate that by being strong-willed, driven, and on the righ path, she minimizes what happened to me or how I feel about it. Just because I'm able to function successfully doesn' mean what happened didn't affect me emotionally.