For me, i can always twist my T's sentiments by thinking "she's just saying that to make me feel better" Or "she doesn't really think that, she's got to say it cos it's her job" etc but i've kinda learned that words can be twisted to match my inner critic, i know she's being real in what she says because i can FEEL and SEE it in her face and in her actions and i find it hard to argue with that.