Hi my friend -- I must say that if you were making $60K, then you both were spending way too much money on frills and things you didn't need. You must have been living above your means. You should have been able to make it on 60K. But that's not ALL your problems.

Your wife certainly did not handle things well by sleeping with all those men. That was NOT the proper way to handle her anger. If she was upset about something, you two should have talked about it. I seems that you two don't know how to communicate.

My advice is to see a marriage counselor. Obviously with a baby due any minute, you won't be able to until the baby is born, but afterwards, I'd recommend you see one as soon as you can. If you don't I'm not sure this marriage is going to survive, the way it's going. YOu both have resentments that you're not handling properly. YOu need to get rid of these, and learn how to communicate. Talking these out between the two of you is important, rather than acting out. So please see a marriage counselor as soon as you can. This marriage needs to be saved for the sake of the children. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee