i spoke a little, and i thought before continuing.. although my S/O now wants and is expecting a letter... those painful moments of 15-20 minutes by myself... made me realized--- he wont get it due to he has not went through what i have-- how can i expect him to "know" something he has never experienced?

being a little more perceptive at the moment than i was earlier- that is always a good thing, and learning to do more.