(((Elisa)))

I am sorry that you've been having such a tough time since your move from Florida. Getting back onto a medication probably will help a bit ~ as would seeing a T, to help you think through things more clearly.

It sure can seem as though men just don't understand the way that a woman's mind works. HTH did menopause get thrown in there? Yes, menopause often causes forgetfulness, hot flashes, and some emotional upheaval. But, it sounds like they are blaming YOU for feeling the way that you do. If you're experiencing "the change", that there explains it & no one else has had a negative impact. Know what I mean? It's like they're putting all of the responsibility on your shoulders and not holding any responsibility themselves. Well, that's not the way that it happens in life.

Your hub certainly sees a difference in your level of happiness. That's a fact. It would be really nice if he spent some time trying to come up with ways in which he could help you get through this time ~ so it isn't so stressful and unhappy. Offerring a neck and shoulder rubdown or a shoulder to cry on. He could reassure you, when others seem to be jumping on you for being touchy. Giving you hugs, or holding your hand reassuringly. He could say, "Yeah, maybe you should get back in to see a pDoc." Yet, he isn't doing any of these things (as far as I can see). So, take some of this heavy responsibility that you're feeling off your back!

I would recommend being more firm with your hub. Tell him that you are really unhappy ~ you need help, and you're going in to see a pDoc. If he tries to argue with you, simply tell him once that this is what you need. You deserve to get what you need & let it go.

Gentle hugs to you. Try imagining yourself in a relaxing spot for a couple of minutes. Take a few slow, deep breaths. It's bright outside, but not too bright. You can see the sunny, blue sky above you. All around you... you can feel the warm sunlight on your skin; a nice light breeze blowing through your hair; the sound of water trickling through a creek bed ~ a small bed of rocks waddling as the water runs across them; you can smell the pine in the air; and hear birds chirping in the trees and near the water. Take another slow, deep breath. And another. Then, you slowly come back to where you are now. Hopefully, you will feel a little more calm. More relaxed. (The place I described is one of my absolute favorite places to go!! )