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Originally Posted by VenusHalley
It's not a choice. How you deal with it IS.
One of our rock singers lost a leg when he was teenager. Some people would spend the rest whinning of unfair life. This dude? Claims his missing legs was never problem with chicks. He rocks his fake leg too (had a logo of his band encraved in it).
So that's what mind over matter refers to... for me. "It's not my faults" is mere starting point, not ending philosophy. You gotta work with what you got.
So you don't chose to be manic... but you can design support system and safety net for damage limitation. You can put limit on your credit card if spending is the problem. You can create many roadblocks. Whatever gets you through the day...
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Yes, I agree with this fully.
But, I think the thing you must remember is that to many, many people "mind over matter" means that if you just try hard enough, you won't be bipolar any more. Which is why I think it can be offensive. I know that's what it means when people say it to me. That I can just choose to not be bipolar (not giving any credit to how well I do take care of myself, and instead only pointing out when I am not doing well enough.)
And we must also be able to forgive ourselves when our plans and safegaurds fail.