Hi. I have not followed any of your posts so I may not be quite on mark here. But I will tell you what is going on w/ me because it sounds very similar.

My H and I go together to T. He says he's only going for me and goes because he wants me to get better. But the issues involve him and how it leads me to have problems. Its all my fault, I'm the problem and I'm the crazy according to him. Every few weeks things go way bad and the T steps all over his toes and he gets angry because the T is trying to make things about him when they should be about me or at the least about us. He claims no responsibility for things. Even though he says he is not responsible for the way I feel, he is learning. He will never admit it. The T says thats ok. If it is sinking in and he knows it, he doesn't have to admit it to anyone. He's learning and continues to come because he is interested in whats going on and is learning things about himself. It's not important that he admits it's helping as long as it really is.

Is it anything like this for you?