Well I wouldn't say that for me, I don't think I would say better place. I don't believe in after life. That's the thing, I am worried about making anyone more upset. Which is easy to do in these situations.

I think yes tho, just sticking to letting them know I am sorry, and care about them is probably good.

Eliza thank you, that's a really good idea. My sister never asks for help, brother in law even less so. I can think of a lot of ways I could help them, maybe cooking some meals for them and my nieces and nephew, her children are older teens but they could still come here for some movies to give mom and dad some quiet time.

Thank you guys, I appreciate the help. I get nervous in situations like this and then smirk or whatever.. not because of joy in it, just too much stress and nerves.

Anneinside, I am really sorry, and I agree, better place would have been with you.