No offense taken. Are you so sure that you know what others are feeling? Thoreau wrote that most men (people) live lives of quiet desperation. I think most people with heart and soul are just doing the best they can and it could all fall apart on any given day.
Our opinion of ourselves and the way we view ourselves is usually wrong. It isn't much more valid/reliable than the way others see us. That isn't going to make you any happier but it may help you to accept yourself.